“Know first who you are; and then adorn yourself accordingly.” Euripides
This harkens back to the old fatty issue of “to tuck or not to tuck”. I was a tuckee for many years, until my physique changed and I became an un-tuckee. My criteria being what made ME feel comfortable and attractive?
I am so happy to see more and more fatties wearing tight clothes. How I envy them their self confidence. I admit to being a more draped kind of girl, but I am working on it. I now traipse around the house in tight legging jeans and a cami top – and when I see myself in the mirror, I think I look pretty damn good. I even go outside dressed like that – but if I’m going to the store, I confess that I throw on a sweater.
I am not advocating one style over the other; but I’ll tell you one thing I learned back in my misspent youth working in a fat lady clothing store – if you wear loose fitting clothes, most people will assume that you are as big as those clothes, so you might as well show them exactly what you got!
Of course what you wear is also determined on what you’re going to be doing – I work in a law office, and they would be very unhappy if I came in with my boobs and/or belly and/or butt in view. For my own personal comfort, I usually try to keep most of those parts covered anyhow – except the boobs – sometimes. Hey boobs are a goodness.
But when I’m on campus, I love when I see fatties who have their bellies peaking out! You go girl! When we go to a size-acceptance dance, I love the fatties who are obviously reveling in their curves! It rocks!
Personally, I also have to deal with the issue of age-appropriateness. This is another toughie for me. In my head, I’m still in the midst of that misspent youth! I’ll see something adorable, to die for, and then there’s that nasty voice in the back of my head saying — should someone YOUR age really wear that? Sometimes I tell the voice to shut up; other times I have to say, okay – not really for me. But I try to base these decisions on what I am comfortable with — not what society says I “should” be wearing.
As I’ve said before, we all do the best we can at any given time. Somedays I’m up for making a statement by wearing tight clothes or putting red or purple in my hair. Somedays, I’m not up for the battle.
But I do try to dress to the occasion, to my own comfort level, and to my personal standards of appropriateness. Looking “good”, in and of itself, is a statement to the world. It shows fat-phobes and people who might otherwise be unaware, that fatties can (and do) look good; and it serves as a “good example” to other fatties. Sad to say, some fatties don’t think they can look good unless and until they lose weight. So you are putting them on notice too – hey, I look good – so can you!
And that is what I try to keep in mind when I see fatties in tight or revealing clothes. They look great – I’m like them – I can (and do) look great too! We’re in it together my fat friends.