Fat and in Pain

I admit that when I feel like I’m not moving like I used to, I am tempted to blame the fat — not (heaven forbid) my age, or even that maybe I need to go see a doctor, chiropractor, whatever.  Why is that?

I know that my pelvis gets “torqued” and that when it gets messed up I’m going to have lower back pain.  Lots of lower back pain.  And I know it’s fairly simple for a physical therapist or chiropractor to put my pelvis back where it belongs — and I get immediate relief from the pain.  So why do I go (literally) years without seeking relief? 

Sadly, I think many of us (including obviously me) tend to blame all of our problems on our fat.  Even when we “know” better.

If the pain is really caused by our fat bodies, we should know.  If it is caused by something else, we should know.  And in both cases, we should know what, if anything, can be done in the way of treatment.  And if there is no treatment, then we should seek some sort of pain management therapy.

I think some people suffer because they think they “deserve” the pain because they are fat.  I think I suffer the pain because I want to show myself what a strong independent person I am.  Both are pretty silly reasons to suffer pain.

Just because we are fat, does not mean we have to settle for feeling less well; and I, for one, am going to try much harder to remember this.

We keep telling fat folks to ask their doctor “How would you treat this condition if I wasn’t fat?”

And I know I need to get better about asking that question of myself.

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3 thoughts on “Fat and in Pain

  1. …This is a timely reminder. My knees have been hurting, and it’s tempting to blame it on my weight. It wasn’t until the other day when my super skinny friend told me that a lot of roller derby girls such as myself develop knee pain because the hamstring isn’t strong enough to support beefed up quads. And yet I still keep thinking that if I was just a bit skinnier….

  2. I think some people suffer because they think they “deserve” the pain because they are fat.

    I also think believing you deserve it is a way of reconciling yourself to the situation, it’s often a coping mechanism.

    If you believe you “deserve” it, that can be easier to deal with than feeling like this is just random. We are taught that we get what we deserve too and what can be most damaging and threatening to our mental health above all, is two irreconcilable opposites.

    • This interesting, the whole “Deserve it” thing. People find it really hard to reocncile the idea that sometime bad stuff just happens. It is always someone elses fault. I know this is an extreme example, but I think the prime example is that of victim blamers. If she hadn’t been drunk, if he hadn’t been walking alone at night, if I hadn’t been so trusting etc etc etc. We can’t accept that sometimes horrible stuff isn’t our fault or someone elses, that we always have a way of PREVENTING bad things from happening. “If I wasn’t fat, if I worked a little harder, if I didn’t have that cheeseburger last week,” rather than “Sometimes, my knees are just a bit shit.”

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