In case you missed it, The Village Voice did a great article on Guys Who Like Fat Chicks.
It mostly focuses onDanWeiss. Here is an FA (fat admirer) talking about issues FAs deal with and the myths that surround being an FA. He also has an advice-column blog for folks who have questions about FAs. He doesn’t try to be PC, and some people may object to how he talks about women; but I found him refreshingly candid.
Why doesDan do this? Because he wants FAs to come out of the FA closet.
Dan believes there are a lot more FAs out there than anybody suspects. I sure hope so. And I wholeheartedly agree that FAs need to stop skulking in the shadows and come out and play! They’ll be happier and a lot of fat people will be happier. Doctors, family and friends could no longer tell fat people that they will always be alone because no one could love them unless they lose weight. Sadly, even for this article, many of the people who were interviewed chose to use pseudonyms.
I also really appreciate Dan addressing the idea that being an FA is being a fetishist. As he very correctly points out, people are not fetish objects; people are people. Preferring a fat person is simply having a “type”. Just like some people prefer blonds, or short partners or tall partners, etc. It’s a preference, not a fetish. He also points out that he does not find all fat people equally attractive. He finds certain fat people attractive. Again, he has a “type”.
He also dispels the myth that fat people are “easy”. One reason, he points out, is that fat people are skeptical. Many fat people have been taught (and eventually come to believe) that they could not possibly be attractive. And even fat people who know they are attractive, have been made the butt of so many jokes, that they tend to be very careful not to open themselves up for more abuse.
A large part of the article follows Charlotte (a fat woman, but not an FA) who is in town to meet a man who came all the way from Spain just to meet her. I guess they just wanted a woman’s point of view – but I would have been more interested in hearing from a gay/lesbian FA or a female FA.
In fact there’s quite a bit of “filler” in this article that is not quite on topic, but overall it is a great read with some interesting information.