(Sincere thanks to Whaliam for the title)
And the award for the worst idea ever goes to Structure House, a North Carolina-based weight-management facility that offers an online refer-a-friend program which sends an e-card detailing Structure House’s offerings to your pal’s inbox, with a note reading, “I saw this program online and thought I would share it with you.”
Can you imagine? I would hope there is no one in my family or friends who would think doing this is a good idea. And if I ever got one of these and found out who sent them, I promise they would have a near-death experience.
Apparently out of concern for what damage the Structure House method might do, the Chicago Tribune ran an article “Broaching a Weighty Subject” (Get it? “weighty”? How fucking droll), giving advice on the proper way to talk to someone about their weight.
That’s easy. How about, not at all? How about it’s none of your flipping business?
At least the article points out that stigma is a poor motivator and most fat people know they are fat and understand the possible (but not inevitable) health risks. Also many fat people have tried to lose weight may times and you should assume their lack of success has to do with ineffective treatment options and biology.
Okay – so most of us already know more about being fat than most average sized people. Then, what exactly would the point of the advice be?
Apparently, the person giving the advice is supposed focus on concern about the fat person’s health.
Yeah, that’s helpful. Because let’s be honest, you voicing concern over the health of my fat ass, means that you are already making assumptions about fat and health and the life I must be leading. And what do you call that? Oh yeah …
An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts; A preconceived preference or idea; The act or state of holding unreasonable preconceived judgments or convictions. …
What I found most offensive was the attitude that us poor fat people need to be treated with love and support so we will deal with our “problem”. How about the problem of fat people who have to deal with people who have not bothered to educate themselves about fat facts, HAES (health at every size), and size acceptance?
So please, if you want to “motivate” me when it comes to my weight; why don’t you examine your own motivation and leave me the hell out of it?